So I think most of us can agree with the following statement: none of us are as cool in person as we are on social media. There is this horrible lie circulating that says (in the voice of that awful Professor Umbridge from Harry Potter), “In order to have a successful social media following, your posts and your photos MUST be perfect.” How many times have you found yourself scrolling through your pictures to find THE perfect one? The photo that you think will get you the most likes? The photo that is most aesthetically pleasing? The photo that looks the least like your every day life…Or have you ever deleted a post because it didn’t get enough “likes”?
I have done all of the above.
People like real. People appreciate the raw and the honest. People connect with messy, flawed, and imperfect, because that’s what life is: an imperfectly beautiful, chaotically flawed mess. We live in a world so obsessed with beauty and perfection, that we are starting to forget what ‘real’ looks like. We begin to self-deteriorate because we get caught in the comparison game, comparing our behind-the-scenes to everyone else’s highlight reels.
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Y’all, I tell people that every single day.
We try so hard to get the perfect picture for instagram, to make people think we are living this perfect, Kardashian life. You know what? We end up losing the opportunity to live in the beauty of the moment.
Every day, before I push ‘post’, I hesitate. I am like,
“Is this TMI?”
“Is this too real?”
“Am I going to lose followers if I post this?”
“What if my post isn’t relatable?”
“Is this too unladylike?”
“Are my friends going to judge me?”
Well, I will tell you that my funny, embarrassing female problems, all-too-true, mom-fail posts are also my most ‘liked’ posts. Putting myself out there and telling truths that we feel like we have to keep hidden behind closed doors, is what is connecting me to, and building relationships with, my followers: YOU.
There is something about raw, vulnerability that people appreciate, and it’s a breath of fresh air from the stuffy cloud of perfection that is constantly looming over our heads. It’s nice to know that someone else other than you hasn’t showered for a week, or that you aren’t the only one who has eaten an entire box of Thin Mints in one sitting, or that I am not the only one who looks like Paul Bunyan when they wear a plaid flannel button down.
I lose followers every. damn. day.
I am also 99.9% sure that there are people who judge me after some of my posts ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ But, at the end of the day, maybe I am not meant to connect with those people and those people aren’t meant to connect with me. However, the people I do connect with are AMAZING, and REAL in the most perfectly imperfect way, and I appreciate that.
I appreciate YOU.
Even though I feel like this has turned into a huge pile of word vomit I am still going to click “Publish” because if I didn’t, it would defeat the entire purpose of this post. I hope this helps anyone who feels vulnerable when they post on social media, or if you are someone who has stretched themselves thin trying to reach this unattainable goal of perfection, maybe this post will bring you a little bit of peace. Opening up and sharing all of my life’s imperfections has given me the opportunity to grow as a person, to grow as a business, and to create friendships both on and offline. So, KEEP IT REAL, BRO, and watch everything around you, including yourself, begin to flourish.